SEX

 

 

Love for food is like the need for sex.  Both are psychological needs.  A healthy man or woman is invigorated by it and made to feel young again   When a couple cohabits, both their vibrations rise to the same pitch and when their reproductive organs release each other's contribution to procreation, a baby is in the making.  Propagation of the species is the main purpose of sex.  Its pleasure is compensation to the couple for the hardship of baby's birth and rearing of the child.  Love for having a baby should be a prerequisite for sex.

 

When Adam and Eve ate the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil they discovered carnal pleasure, and the use and enjoyment of that pleasure is good or bad depending on whether a couple has a permit or not.  In the case of Adam and Eve, they were not allowed yet to have sex.  They were not aware of the existence of the pleasure of sex then.  They were innocent.  But eating the aphrodisiac onion increased their libido and got them sexually excited.  They had sex.  Therefore, the first sin of man committed against God was sex.  From then on, man has been inclined to the pleasure of sex.

 

Marriage vows are but passes given by God to man to enjoy the pleasure of sex.  From their union, they are supposed to bring forth a child.  They are participants in God's plan to allow evolving spirits and spirits of dead persons to come again to relearn the lessons they failed to learn while on Earth.

 

For couples to withstand the difficulties of becoming one body, Love is essential.  Love makes the woman receptive to physical touches, to endearing soft caresses.  Love arouses in man hidden strengths, aggressiveness, and the power to procreate.  The man demands for sex out of the relationship.  The woman expects tenderness in the relationship.  Man's arousal is like the bulb that lights right away when switched.  The woman's response is like the flat iron that heats up slowly but once heated up takes time to cool down.  And she needs tenderness for her to cool down.  Without the element of tender loving care she feels the cheapening of the relationship.

 

Woman's reproductive cycle is timed like the appearance of the moon.  The new moon gives birth to new places, new ventures.  The spirit of the new moon blesses and makes sure the new ventures get their share of graces from heaven.

 

In the woman, the new moon is the ovulation period at which an egg cell is released from the ovary and ready to unite anytime for any incoming sperm cell.  When lucky or unlucky depending on the intentions of the partners, the male sperm unites with the female egg cell and you have a one-celled baby imbued with a soul.  The computer in heaven automatically assigns the spirit fitted for that baby.  The choice is dependent on the various circumstances the baby will provide for the spiritual attainment of the assigned spirit.  Thus, if a spirit born from a rich family before has to learn the lesson of detaching himself from material things, he is assigned to a poor family.

 

The spirit assigned watches the development of the baby as a couple watches the building of the house. When the couple tries to abort, the spirit exerts all its efforts to prevent its happening.  If the assigned spirit has strong will power it can prevent the washing away of the baby cells from the womb of the mother who takes abortion pills.  It can withstand the tightening and loosening of the uterus.  It will simply stick to the walls of the woman's womb.  But the will power of the assigned spirit is often no match to the combined will of the couple out to prevent the flowering of a baby.  If the assigned spirit is that strong it can convince the mother not to do it and bring all sorts of signals to the man.

 

Aside from the mother's new moon ovulation period, the rest are baby free.  Nature intended it for the enjoyment by the couple of simple carnal pleasure.  The couple is allowed by nature to have sex without the corresponding responsibility of having a baby and its eventual rearing.  Therefore God gave the couple the free will to determine for itself whether to procreate or not. And when the couple cohabits at the fertile period it is presumed that it chooses that responsibility.

 

When the couple uses artificial birth control, it over-extends its right to have or not to have a baby.  If only they were aware of the long, long waiting list of spirits wanting to take the same life exam again, if only they were aware that even dwarfs, enkantos, and other gross spirits desire so much to evolve into human form, then the couple will think twice of practicing birth control.  Spirits of various levels are envious of man's world.  For in your material and spiritual world, spiritual evolution is fastest.  It comes in leaps and bounds.  Jesus Christ showed that it is possible.  He attained spiritual perfection while on Earth in a brief span of 33 years.

 

When the ovulation period of the mother corresponds to the new moon, it is best to cohabit at this period.  The new baby will receive more graces from heaven.  He will receive special favors from the assigned spirit of the new moon.

 

It is usual for a marriage to suffer the so-called "seven-year itch."  The man or woman is usually attracted to another member of the opposite sex.  Why can't man be contented with the sex he can freely have with his wife?  If you eat the same viand everyday, one tends to enjoy it less.  What is prohibited is exciting.  These are  the arguments for extra-marital sex.

 

Like the desire for food, this urge for sex is supposed to be conquered by man.  For sex is an element of the material world.  It is not present in the spiritual domain.  Since it is purely material, anyone engrossed in sex will have a hard time lifting himself up and climbing the ladder of spiritual perfection.  Now and then, release is needed, like a kettle at boiling point.  But to be overly preoccupied with sex is unhealthy for the spirit.  For one thing, it affects one's efficient management of the hours and minutes given to him by God.  He accomplishes less.  Another thing, it necessitates the loss of his primary energy --- libido.  He is drained of energy after sex and therefore incapable of efficient creative pursuits.  Creativity needs libido. Once you use up libido in writing, in painting, in creating, in inventing, in rugged physical exertion, you notice your sex urge is diminished.

 

You are attracted to other persons even after marriage because you are still undergoing the test in life.  You have not success fully redirected your libido to more creative pursuits.  When you are idle, more erotic dreams and daydreams come your way.  When you have successfully overcome this, your need for sex is diminished.  And you are surprised at your ability to control yourself.  Control is the key for managing one's life.

 

Why control sex?  For in controlling, you control the seat of your energy. Just after sex, don't you sleep to recharge your worn-out batteries?  In control, you will have enough physical energy and creative energy --- the libido, to be spent in your higher pursuits for the strengthening of your Will Power, the enhancing of your Awareness, and the practice of Love for humanity so as for you to advance several steps up the ladder of spiritual evolution.  Unbridled lust produces the decay in a country's culture.  Look at what happened to the Roman empire.

 

 Ordinarily the passes for sex are granted in marriage vows. In the olden times, God expressly granted the passes when he said "Go forth and multiply."  If He intended couples to be monogamous, he would have said, "Go forth and add." King David and King Solomon had passes for about a thousand and seven hundred partners, respectively. But both violated their passes. They had more than their limit. To the ordinary man and woman who do not belong to the Moslem faith who have passes for at most five wives, one partner is expected.

 

The biblical dictum "What God has put together, let no man put asunder” refers to the spirit that God fuses with the physical body of the baby provided by the man and woman.  It is a great sin against God to kill, for killing is putting asunder body and spirit.  The dictum does not refer to marriage.  For even the Catholic Church annuls marriages for various reasons, claiming that there has been no valid marriage in the first place.

 

When man and woman live together it should be for the mutual benefit of both.  Each will have to contribute his/her share for the benefit of both and the rearing of the offspring that will follow.  It is wrong for woman to think that marriage frees her from the responsibility for material advancement  It is also wrong for man to think that marriage absolves him of responsibility for home chores.  Marriage is a partnership, for better or for worse.

 

But when the marriage cannot hold anymore, that instead of uplifting both couple materially and spiritually, it produces headaches for both, then mutual dissolution is allowed by God.  Dissolution is allowed so long as no party is aggrieved.  Otherwise karma debts will be incurred by the aggressor once separation is forced.  But then again, the final separation should be allowed if all means of reconciliation fail and both are really that incompatible.  They should part as friends.  And if ever one falls in love again, he should make sure not to commit the same mistakes again.

 

If marriage exists only on the material plane, as a partnership for acquiring assets and enjoying the same, the bond cannot last.  Temptations will come and will render the bond loose.  It cannot last for the marriage is not made in heaven.  But if the marriage is also based on spiritual Love, each one intending to help the other attain spiritual perfection, then both will have eyes that cannot see temptation, ears that cannot hear teases, and tongues that cannot sing praises to others of the opposite sex.  The Lord will always be with them for they are on the first step of loving one's neighbor.  And the bond is enhanced when the children are directed not to look for material things in life but to search for eternal spiritual truths.

 

As the saying goes, "A family that prays together stays together."  A family detached from material things stays well-knit.  The bond is impregnable.  Love permeates the. knot.  There is absence of tensions.  No one blames anybody.  Each one desires to go home and partake of the Love enriching each one in the family even though they are not conscious about it.

 

In conclusion, the sex urge or libido is the greatest energy given to man whose primary purpose is for man to procreate, have a family, and rear children. The family bond is stronger if each one helps each other and the family is spiritually inclined rather than materially oriented.

 

The marriage can be dissolved if both parties have exhausted all means of reconciling but failed.  But when they part, they should part as friends.  No one should feel oppressed or otherwise karma debts will set in.

 

The joy and pleasure of sex is to induce man and woman to have children as there is a long waiting list of spirits wanting to assume human form to take the exam of life again or to take removal exams.

 

Experiencing sexual pleasure without Love is not right.  For Love is the vehicle that will make their vibrations coincide.  The older one gets, the slower will be his vibrations.  Being in love and having sex with the young whose body vibrations are faster will make one's slower vibrations faster and therefore make him appear younger.  A child living with older men will look older than his age, whereas a man mingling with the youth will look younger.  Teachers generally look younger than their age because of this.

 

Like food, sex is needed by the body.  As man conquers his urge for food through fasting, so with sex.  Having sex is as natural as eating.  But having sex has to be blessed with Love.  Otherwise, it is not sanctioned.  Even among brute animals, there is some form of courtship which will prepare the bodies for the act of procreation.

 

When the sex urge is not satiated in the act, it manifests in thoughts.  If one were able to conquer it consciously, it may manifest in dreams.  This means the sex urge cannot be easily conquered.  You are supposed to control it, that when you are truly resolved not to give in to it, you can.  You should rule over sex and not let it rule over your lives.  If you allow it, you will lose sight of your primary purpose in life --- that is, spiritual perfection which is achieved through the control of one's physiological needs, strengthening your Will Power, Awareness, and Love for your fellowmen, meditation, fasting, prayers to God, prayers to your Guardian Angel, and 24-hour purity in thoughts, words, and deeds.

 

As a basic guide, after fulfilling God's dictum, "Go forth and multiply" and having children, you should redirect the libido to creative pursuits --- endeavors that will contribute to your Will Power, Awareness or Wisdom, and Love for God and fellow men.